under pressure
July 14, 2006, 05:04 AM by

Earlier this week, I had a revelation like a brick to the brain: The majority of the crap that has happened to me since 1998 or so? It's not my fault. There are things I could have handled better, I know, but I blamed myself for virtually everything, and that just wasn't true. I thought I was damaged goods, shattered to pieces, but what really happened is that I got knocked around hard and held up pretty well, all things considered.
It's the kind of thing I knew logically and could parrot back on command: "Ree, is that your fault?" "No, of course that's not my fault" -- but it still felt like it was. So shining a light on that self-deception, seeing it for what it really is, is boggling.
Introspection. It's what happens when someone self-involved (yo) takes a psychology course. Yay!


